It’s probably one of my favorite family pictures of all time. Two little boys, ages 4 and 2, wearing bib overalls, old fashioned caps, and bare feet. One holding a baseball bat, the other holding a baseball. Where did the time go? They look so cute, so much alike, but they couldn’t be more different…
I learned that I have a maniac inside of me on February 3rd, 2002. Six years into our marriage we were still living in the “15 cent dinner, ramen noodle years”, where you have no money at all. But we'd splurged on a TV. It was the first major purchase of our marriage and we’d…
Three steps to take when your child sees porn.
Pornography has become a major front in the spiritual battle for the hearts of our sons. Unfortunately, parents today need to operate under the assumption that your child seeing porn is inevitable. My experience and the statistics make this clear. A recent university study* showed 90…
A young man’s plea to hear his father’s voice.
Brad is one of those young men poised to do great things. In a couple of years gaggles of grey-headed grandmothers will be dragging their bewildered granddaughters across crowded church fellowship halls in hopes of sparking a romance. He is a godly young man and I…
Tools for communicating with young men.
I know the voices of our culture make it hard to believe, but a son really does want to communicate with his parents, and he really does need to hear your voice. This is the way God designed us. God has made parents to be His representatives to our…
In our previous article Telling the Truth, Carole McLeod tells the story of her son's problem telling the truth and how she and her husband sought to tackle that sin in his life. But teaching our sons that they should love truth and helping them learn to love the taste of truth are two different…
All too often, parents underestimate the power of their voice in the lives of their children. Children of all ages are often desperate for meaningful conversation with their parents. Many studies reveal even when kids pretend not to be listening to their parent, they are actually listening very carefully.
Not only do children, pre-teens and teens listen to their parents, they have high regard for their parents’ input into their lives. Clearly, the manner of listening changes over the years. There are seasons when listening to their parents is not broadcast loudly to their friends, but you can be assured that they are still listening.
It is also very important to know the way in which we communicate with our children in their early years sets a pattern for years to follow. But even for parents who feel they have not started well, God gives us good reason to hope.
I think I can safely say I’ve made more mistakes than most of the readers of this article, yet because of the grace of God, my wife and I are blessed with some very amazing children and grandchildren. It is incredible what a Heavenly Father can do in spite of the weakness and sin of an earthly father.
